nike.bordom wrote:

my last experience in getting an affair started turned out disastorous. and it seems most men are not interested in affairs. either they're looking for an one-night-stand or for a relationship - or they're not interested at all. I dunno. maybe it's me or my taste or...
your personal opinion?

0x00 wrote:

An affair done right takes a cool maturity that few people have. However I could see a girl between 5 and 10 times then realise I'm sick of them. Up for it?

0x00 wrote:

'Her' not 'them'. Although that was pretty impressively impersonal. Hey maybe I could have an affair.

nike.bordom wrote:

lol, you're asking ME?
one of my biggest problems here is I'm awfully picky. not by choice. guess it must be that old chemical reaction thing. looks are important, too. blah, blah, blah.

0x00 wrote:

Ah, I can't be bothered with picky, I do have some standards.

Are you deliberately pricing yourself out of the market perhaps? Isn't an affair simply a one night stand where it's easier to keep seeing them than not?

0x00 wrote:

Craiglist, innit. Real people you can't say "I'd like to fuck you a bunch of times over the next x days/weeks/years at my convenience. Moderate affection will be employed."

Unless you can say that and I just don't know who you can say it to.

Wow that was a lot of short words. Can you get the rhythm? Vocalise it.

nike.bordom wrote:

maybe. but so far I felt more need for sex than for cozy togetherness. doesn't mean I don't miss that, but it's easier to deal with.



no! if sex is good the first time it can only get better with some practice. but still that doesn't mean real feelings are involved.

0x00 wrote:

Vaguely remember what you mean. I've been wasting my time with crazy bitches I never even liked or whores, anything to keep it impersonal.

Seduce a work colleague, then they can't get away the next time you want them. Before you know it: affair!

nike.bordom wrote:

remember: I'm a freelancer and the only 2 people I'm working for are a a completely messy guy that lives with his gf and a woman that has a bf for about 12 years.

0x00 wrote:

So it's mess or muff. Don't be nesh.

0x00 wrote:

Seriously, craiglist. It's what Frankie would say, so I know it's right.

0x00 wrote:

Craigslist. Why can't I type that? What did he do to me?

nike.bordom wrote:

craigslist, fuck it. anyone not submitting a pic knows why. they can wank until they get a heart attack and I won't care.

Lois wrote:

affairs are out of style, definitely. that hangover between relationship and a bedtime story is just not fixing the emotional click you called "chemical reaction thing".

0x00 wrote:

Excuses, excuses... you don't want laid, you want validation for being scared to meet people. God I'm so clever it hurts.

Lois, top incoherence as usual!

Lois wrote:

ah c'mon 0, what's the point for incoherence?

0x00 wrote:

What?

Lois wrote:

How comes you called the posting incoherence?

0x00 wrote:

Huh?

Lois wrote:

yeah, fuck yourself

0x00 wrote:

Eh?

Lois wrote:

that would be a really nice affair for you, I guess

0x00 wrote:

What's he saying?

Lois wrote:

he's saying that he does not understand why you called the posting above incoherence.

Did he get it?

0x00 wrote:

Anyway, nike. Maybe don't worry about whether it's a proper affair, just get in there. Maybe. I've been reticent about getting in touch with my local free sex woman because I don't know what she's thinking, when I could be getting all kinds of mad local free sex!

Lois wrote:

So, it's not about hijacking but I think you didn't understood the question. She doesn't find a man for an affair and the question was, are these affairs out of style? I guess yes. You are talking about your local free fucks which nobody is really interested in.

0x00 wrote:

I don't think nike really cares if affaires are out of style because I don't think she's a dumb cunt stylewhore bitch like you, ferkel scum. I think she was wondering about herself. But that's me thinking again. I've been warned about that.

(works better with the 'e')

Lois wrote:

This is nothing about style whore. She's a woman and can have a fuck in her local bar in short time, that's a different premiss for a girl. And I think she was wondering about the men, which is apparently clear after your posting.

0x00 wrote:

What?

Lois wrote:

She can have a fuck in her local bar in short time.

Not as you or me.

0x00 wrote:

Come again?

Lois wrote:

.

0x00 wrote:

I told you not to call me that in front of people, pookybear.

Lois wrote:

Ok, what is an affair, 0?

0x00 wrote:

You didn't have to edit your post because the very last thing I am doing, as is clear to anyone without cranial puncture wounds, is engaging the likes of you.

What does this say? It says don't fucking talk to me.

Lois wrote:

This is kid style but I respect you. Ok, have fun.

0x00 wrote:

¿Qué?

moshka-medicine wrote:

totally unfortunately out of style. the world these days just wants the easy buzz and no strings attached fuck. no "drama" just screw and forget. this is noticeable in mainstream media with all the hot bitches showing their lingerie and bumping and grinding while some sly dog smooth talks the audience complete with a glass of booze and some fancy jewelry and sports cars. with so many hotties to choose from, and you are already tied down to one.. why bother with a second relationship? the easy way out, im afraid.. so impersonal.

of course there are some exceptions to this.. ideally it is about mutual respect and understanding and there needs to be common interest, otherwise, why spend anytime together?... so good luck!

0x00 wrote:

Yeah, I don't know where you could find someone who wanted drama these days.

moshka-medicine wrote:

^^heh. certainly nobody likes drama around these parts.

fistondub wrote:

Les affaires restent à faire...

Strawberry_Shortcake wrote:

Retourne au lit, toi. C'est pas l'heure encore :)

langster wrote:

What is the point in getting married if you are going to have an affair? And why if having an affair, can't you be fucking honest to yourself and your partner and let him/her know so they can stop wasting their fucking life with a cheating, two faced, lying cunt?

Get a divorce then do what you want, but don't fuck behind someones back, as you will ultimately get caught and cause lots of pain and heartache. But I suppose that is ok if you don't have a conscience or care about the feelings of the person you married. People who fuck with others feelings are the lowest form of twisted pond scum around.

nike.bordom wrote:

langster, whom are you talking to?
I was talking from a perspective of being single, so for my part there's no cheating involved.

langster wrote:

I was talking about affairs, you mean fuck friend. Sorry it was the way you worded it. I had just woken up when I wrote that as well :P

AFXFANTASAY wrote:

By affairs, do you specifically mean hooking up with someone who is married? Or does that also encompass casual encounters on craigslist. I thought an affair meant sexual relations with someone who is married. If you hook up with someone that's in a relationship that's just cheating and if you hook up with someone off a craigslist, that's just a casual encounter or fuck friend. Just curious as to what the definiton of affair here is.?

langster wrote:

Nike definitely means fuck friend. You and I have the same meaning for affair.

0x00 wrote:

Oh, European definition I suppose. Not something illicit.

nike.bordom wrote:

hm, I never was aware definitions differ in europe and usa.

for me an affair is the thing between a ons and a relationship. nothing serious, it's mainly about sex (obviously) on some more or less regular basis. the "status" of the 2 involved is kinda irrelevant, so it can be either single, in a relation or married.
but personally I would stay away from a married man, especially one with kids.

AFXFANTASAY wrote:

Excellent. We are on the same page then about staying away form the marrieds and now I get your definition.

langster wrote:

I thought the UK was in Europe :S






That's where you have a different meaning, the way I see it an affair is definitelty something done when at least one of the people involved is married. Otherwise it's just casual sex or fuck buddy/friend etc.

Anyway.... as you were.

truly-madly wrote:

Can't tell much from the photo but I think I'd shag you.

truly-madly wrote:

Not you Lango, so don't get excited.

langster wrote:

LOL!

ringorider wrote:

I've had them and found them to be fun, the most important thing to me has always to screen them. I've been a cheater all my dating life so I need some security they won't get weird.
It's not that I don't care, I just really am more interested in my entertainment than the other person.
Also i've grown up around cheating, once i became an adult I was suprised to find out how few people didn't cheat. It's been going on forever.

nike.bordom wrote:

oh really? not sure though? :-P

iuval wrote:

We're in when it suits us.

fabriknos wrote:

nike i don't think having regular sex with someone you aren't emotionally attached to is an "affair." rather i view an affair as actually having some emotion for the other person, yet certain circumstances prevent you from being together permanently, such as:
- you live in different cities/countries
- you or the other is married or in a committed relationship to someone else

otherwise i would call your situation "casual sex" which, ironically, is the primary foundation of most relationships ;)

0x00 wrote:

Hence 'cool maturity that few people have'.

I love how there are topics and I give all the answers then people repeat them in a less amusing, more longwinded way.

nike.bordom wrote:

and what really makes me sick is the double standard a lot of people have. my ex for instance claimed a ons would never ever happen to him and if he'll ever find out I cheated he will break up immediately. well, after he left me (irony: because of another woman) I found out he had a ons once. he knew he could've told me without causing any drama, but he didn't because he feared I may claim the same right for me.

for me (temporary) monogamy is an ideal that most people don't achieve.

nike.bordom wrote:

fabriknos, you're somehow right. for me personally good sex and emotions are connected. I see you all roll your eyes now ;-)
but last year I noticed there are more reasons to have an affair than the ones you mentioned: when it's already obvious a relationship won't work, but there's a strong attraction.

0x00 wrote:

You people think too much. I've noticed this about you.

iuval wrote:

I can't tell if you're talking to this thread or everyone ever.

fred.mc wrote:

There's definitely a problem with definition here.




Pls elaborate on the screening process.

0x00 wrote:

I'm in orbit now, looking down. Wave at me if you like. It won't help.

fabriknos wrote:

i have never been able to get that one to work... in my experience it was usually a good friend i felt that way about, and it was always just a little too taboo, or too awkward for me to initiate a physical relationship with them. looking back, i wish i did take the risk rather than wonder what might have happened. well, hindsight is 20/20.

cthulhu303 wrote:

Why does it regularly swim against the current, then? Do you want to use Monopoly money after all? :P

langster wrote:

LOL!

You know exactly what I meant Mr sarcastic pants.

phish63 wrote:

great thread.

Lois wrote:

The definition of affair is still vague but it looks somewhat like a hidden screening process, at least for one part of the affair.

gammut wrote:

Just make sure whoever you have an affair with doesn't end up boiling your bunny.

0x00 wrote:

Meh. Anyone who knows what they're doing is an idiot.

0x00 wrote:

I'm not sure which is worse: knowing what you're doing in advance or knowing what you're doing at the time.

0x00 wrote:

I've had sex twice since Christmas. Yet I'm addicted to girls. Proper addiction that really hurts.

0x00 wrote:

Oh I know which is worst. If you have any clue what you DID.

0x00 wrote:

No, I can beat that. If you have any clue what Lois is saying. That's like... bad.

0x00 wrote:

If I fucked the girls, would I feel better?

Instinct provides two answers at once. 'Probably not' and 'worth a try'.

THEY would feel better. I should be more giving of myself.

langster wrote:

You sound like you are married.

nike.bordom wrote:

result of this thread: I think I'll buy a vibrator.

0x00 wrote:

You don't have one already? There's a story in that.

Lois wrote:

bullshit

0x00 wrote:

Eh?

Lois wrote:

what?

0x00 wrote:

What's bullshit?

Lois wrote:

The result of the thread. Aren't it?

0x00 wrote:

Because I'm finding excuses not to cut my throat I'll indulge you (giving me a reason instead, haha!).

Do you disbelieve nike or do you reach a different conclusion to hers?

0x00 wrote:

This isn't a trap.

Lois wrote:

hm?

0x00 wrote:

Fail, Lois. Epic fail.

Lois wrote:

She expects feelings of her affair - and expected it from "him". So how could she be an vibrator?

Lois wrote:

"a" - but you got it.

0x00 wrote:

She would have us believe we were all so useless that her initial premise has been revised to one of not wanting to fuck people at all. She was making what you Germans call a joke.

Lois wrote:

She didn't. But this is what you'll never understand. As a people of united kingdom.

0x00 wrote:

Can you feed yourself?

Lois wrote:

so tell me, where is the reason for you to believe in, she could think she's a vibrator. I mean, this is just a persiflage to the word itself.

0x00 wrote:

Oh. I thought when you wrote 'be' you meant 'buy'. You meant 'be'. Persiflage, yeah. Go for it. I don't know how she could be a vibrator but if Ann Summers parties are anything to go by, if you touch her to your nose you'll know if you want her up your ars.

0x00 wrote:

i dropped an e.

Lois wrote:

Up my arse? C'mon... I don't need to feed on that. It's just polemic. She's on it, if she's on it on a affair - and this is the point.

It's just the reason affairs doesn't work as some years ago. The feelings are a hard good, and she recommends it and want to give. But, the men aren't interested to give if they know, it's just a affair. To get it back on topic.

0x00 wrote:

When does it become an affair? If at the start, you're saying up front "Here's my cunt, you can have that, and I'll smile at you and mean it sometimes. The rest is mine."

That's a rotten deal. I would take it as a challenge. A few coolly mature chaps, if I didn't make those up, would accept it on face value. Most would fuck off and find a girl who wasn't talking so much shit.

0x00 wrote:

HTH.